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teri-chan wrote:ala kin... ko mmg tak ensem... dlm ati ko je kacak mcm prince charming. peyutmu menggoda menggegar iman hehhe...

kjam gler ayat yd di bolt kn tu...huhu..
jth smngt aku..hahaha..

hohoho.. sabau kin.. xpela.. adila ttp kate ko ensem.. ekekekkee

bak kate teri, perut 2 aset terbaekkk ko.. jgn disia2kn

kindaichi_hajime wrote:

teri-chan wrote:ala kin... ko mmg tak ensem... dlm ati ko je kacak mcm prince charming. peyutmu menggoda menggegar iman hehhe...

kjam gler ayat yd di bolt kn tu...huhu..
jth smngt aku..hahaha..

hehhe ala jgn kecik ati...

kerana aku memandang hatimu bukan wajahmu. kerana wajahmu akan dimakan usia namun hatimu kekal sebegitu. percayalah kataku ini wahai sahabatku.

ewah ayat aku besh heheheh....


aku nk share ni, aku jumpa kat yahoo.com

Here is what relationship experts think about the tried, but not always true, love sayings.
by Stacey Colino

1. Say “I Love You” Every Day

Barbara De Angelis, personal-development expert: Say it as often as possible. There’s no reason to be emotionally stingy with the person you love.

Nancy Kalish, psychologist: I agree that it should be said often, but it should be said sincerely, so it means something. Not just “Good-bye. Love you.”

2. Play Hard to Get

Sam Yagan, dating-website cofounder: Playing hard to get starts the relationship off on a deceptive foot. If you want your relationship to be based on trust, honesty, and communication, why would you begin it like that?

Greg Behrendt, coauthor of He’s Just Not That Into You: You shouldn’t play hard to get; you should be hard to get, because your life is so busy and fulfilling. My wife and I call it being a MOD―a moving object of desire.

Tip: Trying something new will give you the boost of energy you need to stay busy.

3. Your Spouse Shouldn’t Be Your Best Friend

Pepper Schwartz, sociologist: I agree. I think you’re asking a lot of your marriage to have the level of confidentiality, truthfulness, and disclosure that a best friendship has. Your marriage can fulfill only so many roles.

De Angelis: I disagree. If your spouse isn’t your best friend, then what is he? I think it’s important that you not only love him but like him a lot, too.

John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: I have no problem with partners who are best friends, but you should have other close friends to confide in as well―especially when you are having relationship difficulties and need time away from your spouse. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

Tip: Give your relationship a rest every once in a while and make time to be with friends.

4. Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

De Angelis: A little bit of absence can help you appreciate your partner. Too much is dangerous. Relationships need connection, and it’s challenging to stay connected when you aren’t spending time together.

Schwartz: To a point―and then absence makes the heart go roaming. You need a steady diet of intimacy and the other person’s presence to remember why you’re in the relationship. If you don’t see each other often enough, you can start to lead parallel lives instead of lives that intersect.

Yagan: Absence can make the desire and lust for your partner grow. But it can also lead to stress in a relationship, because phone calls or text messages aren’t substitutes for real conversation.

5. You Can Learn to Love Someone

Judy Kuriansky, sex therapist: That’s true, depending on how you define love. You may not have the love-at-first-sight kind of love, but the deep companion kind of love―in terms of trusting each other and being a team―can develop over time.

Behrendt: No, that sounds like settling. I don’t believe in settling, because it’s not fair to the person you’re with or yourself. It’s not like settling on an apartment you don’t love but can live with.

6. Never Go to Bed Angry
Barbara De Angelis, personal-development expert: I disagree. Most of us don’t do well discussing emotional topics late at night, when we’re tired and less emotionally articulate―and your well-intentioned desire to kiss and make up is likely to make him angrier. Let your partner get some rest and things will be easier to resolve in the morning.

Howard J. Markman, psychologist: Most of the relationship issues that people argue about at night can wait for another day. However, if there are urgent issues that need to be discussed, partners should talk things through earlier in the night, then try to spend what is left of the evening relaxing.

Nancy Kalish, psychologist: You shouldn’t go to bed angry, but that doesn’t mean you have to solve every problem before you nod off. Even if an issue isn’t resolved, people who love each other should be able to put it aside and get some sleep, but with the understanding that it will be addressed in the near future with a time specified.


7. Having Kids Will Bring You Closer
Pepper Schwartz, sociologist: Children are an extraordinary source of joy, but they also bring conflict and difficulty into any relationship. You lose time, privacy, and intimacy. An otherwise easy relationship can be tested in a whole new way.

Kalish: The more family members you have, the more friction you have, because there are more relationship issues to work through. And if you focus exclusively on the kids, it takes away from your togetherness as a couple.


8. There Is Such a Thing As Love at First Sight
Ellen Wachtel, couples therapist: False. Often it takes time for love to develop. For some people, physical chemistry plays such a big role at the outset that it is mistaken for love.

Schwartz: It’s a romantic story when it works out, but you don’t hear about the relationships that end badly. Relationships start slow and build; they aren’t necessarily wonderful from the start.

Markman: You’ll quickly know if you’re attracted to each other, but not if you’re compatible or fit to stick together through tough times.


9. Always Keep Him Guessing
Greg Behrendt, coauthor of He’s Just Not That Into You: No, that’s tactical game playing, not love. It takes a lot of calculated effort and is dishonest.

Schwartz: It’s powerful and mysterious to be unpredictable, but it is also manipulative and can build resentment and anger and erode intimacy and respect.

Sam Yagan, dating-website cofounder: There’s good guessing and bad guessing, and it’s really about what kind of guessing you’re making him do. Try to keep the relationship fresh by being unexpectedly romantic.


10. You Can Never Be Too Close
Wachtel: False. Many marriages are damaged by partners thinking that closeness means not having to censor what they say or do. Some couples take each other for granted: Metaphorically speaking, they never get out of their sweat suits at home. If you don’t make an effort to be well mannered or attractive to your partner, then you’re too close.

Markman: That’s absolutely true. Closeness―emotional intimacy―is the heart of a good marriage, so it’s important to talk about what closeness means to each of you.

11. Love Conquers All
Barbara De Angelis, personal-development expert: Unfortunately, this is not true. Love is a big part of a lasting relationship, but shared values and commitment are still required.

Pepper Schwartz, sociologist: Sadly, it’s a myth. Love won’t conquer poverty, addiction, or abuse.


12. Everyone Experiences the Seven-Year Itch
Schwartz: The itch is true, but it doesn’t necessarily take seven years to get there. Some people get divorced within a year or less if they’re convinced the marriage isn’t salvageable.

Howard J. Markman, psychologist: Most partners will at some time think about divorce, but not necessarily in seven years. The data show that most people who thought about getting divorced were happy they stayed married when surveyed five years later. When things are tough, focus on increasing friendship and sensuality in the relationship.


13. The Way to a Man’s Heart Is Through His Stomach
De Angelis: The way to a man’s heart is through his heart. Men want a woman who is going to be a great friend and companion―and if they have to order takeout, so be it!

Judy Kuriansky, sex therapist: It’s true if he loves food, but that part about having to feed the needs of his heart is true, too. Still, don’t lose sight of your own needs. For a relationship to be successful, both partners need to feel pleased and fulfilled.

John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: You’re off by about six inches. Sex is the direct way to a man’s heart.


The Panel
Greg Behrendt is a comedian and a coauthor of He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (Simon Spotlight Entertainment, $15).

Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D. , is a personal-development expert and the New York Times best-selling author of How Did I Get Here?: Finding Your Way to Renewed Hope and Happiness When Life and Love Take Unexpected Turns (St. Martin’s Griffin, $14).

John Gray, Ph.D. , is a family therapist and the author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus (Harper Paperbacks, $14).

Nancy Kalish, Ph.D. , is a professor of psychology at California State University, Sacramento, and the author of Lost & Found Lovers: Facts and Fantasies of Rekindled Romances (iUniverse.com, $18).

Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D. , is a clinical psychologist, a sex therapist, and a TV and radio personality. She is the author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to a Healthy Relationship, Second Edition (Alpha, $19).

Howard J. Markman, Ph.D. , is a professor of psychology at the University of Denver. He runs relationship-enhancing workshops (loveyourrelationship.com) and is a coauthor of Fighting for Your Marriage (Jossey-Bass, $17).

Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D. , is a professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle and a relationship expert for Perfectmatch.com. She is the author of Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love, and the Sensual Years (Collins Living, $16).

Ellen Wachtel, Ph.D. , is a psychologist in New York City who specializes in couples therapy. She is the author of We Love Each Other, But…: Simple Secrets to Strengthen Your Relationship and Make Love Last (St. Martin’s Griffin, $15).

Sam Yagan is a co-founder of OkCupid.com, a free online-dating site.

waaaaaaaaaaaaaa..... teri bile lak ko blj fasal psychologi ni,

my problem is when i was in FALLING IN LOVE, i am very very week about how to 'HOLD the LOVE'.

any idea..

'HOLD the LOVE' perlu ada keberanian, kekuatan, rasa dan kasih.

kamikase30 wrote:waaaaaaaaaaaaaa..... teri bile lak ko blj fasal psychologi ni,

my problem is when i was in FALLING IN LOVE, i am very very week about how to 'HOLD the LOVE'.

any idea..

hahhaa aku tak blaja... but points given mmg berguna,

to have a love is easy, to hold on it is very hard to do. coz love equals to commitment.

so basically, kalu kita ada komitmen dlm perhubungan kita... insya Allah cinta tu akan berjaya

Commitment Phobic Man - Make your man ready for a relationship

Why is it that a man can be so amazing, affectionate, and share a strong 'connection' with you at first? But then is unable to stay close and loving with you when it comes to a real, lasting, committed relationship?

Have you ever met a man who you felt a strong connection with, but something else inside told you he wouldn't be 'good' for you in the long run? But you moved forward with him in spite of the clear signs of danger you saw in him?

Maybe you opened up anyway and fell into a relationship with him, perhaps for months, or even years. But eventually everything fell apart the way you thought it would, and that's when it dawned on you that your very first gut reaction was right.


That's where your mind becomes torn between two different choices:

* Should you know better from your last situation so that you could avoid the pain, frustration, and wasted time and energy of what happened to you before with a guy who wasn't simply 'ready'?

* Or should you throw caution to the wind, knowing that you can't carry around 'baggage' and that to make love work. You have to take chances and let things grow before there can be true love and the kind of certainty in a relationship you know is possible? Sound familiar?

But if both of these choices can lead you down the path of loneliness and lovelessness, then what in the world is going on here? And what is the right thing to do in these kinds of situations with men?

Well... what if there was an easy way to quickly and accurately get a true reading of what a man was about and what he really wanted and was ready for, with you from the very first date?

It's rare to find someone not only intelligent when it comes to the world, of science, facts, and data... but is also highly evolved on a spiritual level as well.

Although you may not yet realise, you as a woman have a deep unlimited, authentic kind of power in relationships.

1) An easy way to make sure that he stays with you is that you never present yourself as 'needy' to a man even if you may sometimes feel a bit insecure or want his attention.

2) A secret to recognising man's behaviour is truly bad for the relationship, and when it's simply a natural and important form of his self expression.

3) How to tell when something is his issue, or when it's actually coming from your own 'scarcity consciousness'. Men are magnetically attracted to women who have abundance mentality'.

4) The two secrets of making a first date great every time. A fun little 'value exercise' that will help you quickly identifies a man's value and help you decide if you have enough commonality to even attempt to pursue a serious relationship. A simple set of self-discovery questions that will liven up a first date with any guy. It will also give you valuable insight into how he views himself, what he's looking for in a woman, and even his views on sex, which are very important to know from day one. Once you learn this exercise, you'll never have to fall back on the typically boring first date questions like "So... what do you do for work?"


credit goes to: Love-Lectures.com - Building Healthy Relationships

aku berproblem ble ttba ader pmpuan call aku...
hahahaha...

dapat cik lat yang tak remantik langsung... susah nak luahkan perasaan sayang.

kalau dia tetiba cakap sayang, rase nak pengsan tetiba...

lidah aku mesti kaku beli nk luah kn perasaan kat gurl.....
pelik tul la ak nie...

x pelik pn fadi...
normal la tu lidah ttba kelu..
haaa...

fadi wrote:lidah aku mesti kaku beli nk luah kn perasaan kat gurl.....
pelik tul la ak nie...

ak pn ade masalah ni... tiap kali nmpk injagi atas padang

normal tuh.. adekah ko ni pemalu ognye? it tks courage maa nk luahkn persaan... die dtg skali nn pakej, k.o.m.i.t.m.e.n

ramai lelaki tkut komitmen...kot...hahahahahhah.... chill fadi, chillllllllllllllll

mungkin cik lat saya sama kategori dengan orang, tapi tak salah pun luahkan ape yang terpendam....

kalau melepas orang tu, putih mata la korang. dah kena cari yang len...

raidizh AR wrote:

ak pn ade masalah ni... tiap kali nmpk injagi atas padang

normal tuh.. adekah ko ni pemalu ognye? it tks courage maa nk luahkn persaan... die dtg skali nn pakej, k.o.m.i.t.m.e.n

ramai lelaki tkut komitmen...kot...hahahahahhah.... chill fadi, chillllllllllllllll

nk kata ak nie pemalu sgt 2 x la...
stakat nk sembang2 kosong ngan gurl 2 boleh...
pnyakit terkelu nie jd bila nk luah kn perasaan jer...
tp mcm ko ckp la kena ada komitmen....

bile nk luah perasaan, opkos perempuan tu spesel sket dr yang lain... sbb ko ade hati kat die kn...

tp pada ak, malu tu yg menarik yg membeza ko ngn laki lain di mata perempuan tuh...

cumanye, menarik saja xcukup, ko kne beranikan diri gak... susah tuh..

kalo da suke, sedangkn lautan api bule direnangi ngn kuak lentang, stakat "will u b mine" tu ape la sgt.. ye x?

u can do it fadi! kalo ko malu skrg, nnt melepas, sape rugi? f.a.d.i jugak.......

kalau nak luah perasaan tu..elok tang mana ye,jumpe ke atau by phone je??mana lg bekesan..sebab penyakit malu td tu.

hahahha.. ramai jejaka pemalu ye skrg nih... temasuk la ak.... macho kn kami?

ntah la, tp kalo ko rase luah depan2 tuh bule wat spoil dek krn sifat malu tuh, by fon pn OK...

mane2 yang ko rase selesa la kot... also depends pada pmpn tu gak...

kalo nk on fon tuh, kasik la suasana romentik sket... tym die btol2 free, kenyang, sehat, ceria

jgn la time die br bgn tdo ke, da ngntuk sgt ke, tgh attend kenduri ke.. kompom peluang dh tipis 1%... n 1% means a lot bai

ayat ko pn kasik la power + uumph + mengancam... cilok la mane2, tnye abah ko ke ayat romentik die pnh cakap kat ibu ko time muda2

n bai, keep d virtue firm.. hormat die sekalipn ko bercakap dlm fon. d rest, is luck

p/s: ak nk g wat fon kol jap....waahahahhaahhaha

hehehe thanks info tu...skrg memang ramai laki jenis tu.tapi aku dah cube kuar dr golongan tu...dan aku berjaya
p/s:aku lari topik ke...sory

ko propose awek ko cemane? xmo share ke? kot2 bule jadi inspirasi kat kami2 jejaka pemalu neh....

hahaha...tibe2 aku jadi pemalu semule utk share2.
bagi aku,better bersemuke dgn perempuan tu..lagi bagus.

stylo r bro... tahniah.... ak nk g start moto.... nk g bersemuka... hohohoho...

semuge kekal ke akhr hayat....

p/s: teringat citer a walk to remember... its epic! wa blah dulu...

de-ciloq wrote:hahaha...tibe2 aku jadi pemalu semule utk share2.
bagi aku,better bersemuke dgn perempuan tu..lagi bagus.

memang better bersemuka la dengan pompuan 2 kalau nk luahkn perasaan....
tp kalau guna phone pn ok gak...teknologi dah ade guna jela...

gne phone kalo da pemalu sgttt...
bersemuka kalo nk nmpk macho..
tp kalo kne tolak konpem jd pemalu giler2 pnyerr..
smpai xkuar umah sbulan kot..